As we begin week 6 of lockdown it can be helpful to consider a wellbeing review, not only for yourself but for those in your house with you. A wellbeing review lends itself to ‘checking in’ with what is and isn’t helpful for you and your family. You may wish to consider what you might do that you are perhaps not and what things you are doing that may not be helpful. Reviewing this may be a way of reminding yourself about things you can do to support both you and your family’s wellbeing and allows you to consider what is helping and gives the opportunity to discard what is perhaps not helpful.
You could involve your children and teenagers, or those you care for or live with, in this process. Ask them what is fun or happy about being at home all the time? What is difficult or sad for them? What would they like to do more of? Less of? What would you like to do more of or less of? You may not be able to meet all of their wants or desires, for example they may want to do less school work, but it does encourage communication, listening, being heard and connectivity which encourages emotional and mental wellbeing.
Other areas which may be helpful to consider are routines. Do they work for you? Did you have one but things have slid? What ‘things’ in the routine are working for you? For example, exercise; is it helpful to do that every day at 10am or does it suit you better to be flexible with the time, on a day to day basis? Give yourself a day off? What might you change or not change about your routine? You may want to consider what foods you’re eating, how much news you’re listening to and whether you’re keeping in contact with friends and family enough for your wellbeing.
Isolation due to Covid-19 doesn’t have to be a picture perfect cycle of cake baking, exercise, family activities or fun all of the time. It’s okay if it’s messy, difficult and includes pj days. We are all doing the best we can, and there is no wrong or right way to do this.
Everybody has a right to feel and be safe in their home. If you feel unsafe in your home due to the behaviour of others or any kind of abuse then please click on the following link for information from the government on how to get help and support: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-and-domestic-abuse/coronavirus-covid-19-support-for-victims-of-domestic-abuse
If it feels too risky to click on the above link in case you are seen, the following two numbers and email are included on the government website above as sources of support and help: The National Abuse Helpline; free to call and available 24/7, on 0808 2000 247. The NSPCC, who have trained helpline counsellors to get advice from or share your concerns with for your own family or a family you are worried about, on 0808 800 5000 or email: email@example.com.
If you are in danger please call 999.