Lockdown is an experience that has given the opportunity for many emotional responses. For some it may have been a time for reflection on their life, perhaps brought some areas of life into sharp focus or made other areas of life more fuzzy; perhaps a mix of the two or other things also. How has Covid-19 and lockdown impacted you as a person and parent or significant care giver? How has it impacted your children and family? And what does that mean for you all?
When we reflect it can give us insight into ourselves. For some it may have highlighted areas of life that they are unhappy with, or they recognise need their attention. It might also have brought into focus gratitude, love, connection and togetherness. Nothing has to be singular about reflections, it doesn’t have to be ‘just’ one thing, for example, you may feel gratitude and warmth for one area in your life but can now recognise another area of your life you’d like to change or an area of your life that perhaps isn’t so ok for you. Reflecting may promote the space to begin to think about making changes.
You can invite your children/young person into reflecting also. Asking open questions can help your child or teen to reflect upon this time, communicate that with you and can encourage them to think about their own emotional health and develop the skills to understand and verbalize their thoughts, feelings and experience. Questions such as; what do you feel about lockdown? What do you think about lockdown? What has made you happy, sad, scared etc may be helpful. Even if your child or teen doesn’t know the answer, or doesn’t want to respond, that’s ok and letting them know that’s ok can be important. Perhaps craft, such as drawing, may be a way of exploring the answers with them to help them find the words, or if they do not want to then asking the questions has given them the opportunity to think about it within themselves privately if they wish.
As I write this we, as a nation, are waiting to hear the government’s news on next steps regarding lockdown. As this is announced, reflecting on what you think and feel about it, and inviting those around you too, can support your emotional wellbeing. It may also help you make decisions about how you and your family want to manage the lockdown lifting process as an individual family unit. There is no right or wrong way to feel or think regarding the lift of lockdown. It may feel overwhelming or you may feel relief. Get to know your feelings and thoughts around it and gather the right support for you around you if you need to. By my next blog we will know the next steps the government intends for managing covid 19/lockdown and I will explore this and emotional wellbeing further then. Until then, continue to take care of yourselves.